Another Year Older and Counting Blessings

Yesterday was my birthday. The week leading up to it was
full of chaos and turmoil caused by one of those people who have no empathy or
conscience and walk around making life difficult for everyone. In the past, I
would have tried to convince this person how wrong it was to do the things she
was doing to others. I’m older and wiser now. These folks just don’t care, and
they will bend the very shape of reality to avoid admitting they were wrong or
made a mistake. Now, I pick my battles and try to keep all that toxicity away
from myself. I did everything I could to help the victims and then moved on.
In this past year, I have noticed a growing sense of
hostility and aggression out in the world around us—in politics, in traffic, in
most places I look. The only way I know to truly combat it is to try to counter
it with loving, peaceful acts and thoughts. But when so many around us are acting
out, it’s hard to keep thinking and acting in a positive manner.
One technique that helps me is to focus on gratitude and the
many blessings I’ve received. The angry people I know have received multitudes
of blessings, but somehow they remain oblivious to them and filled with
resentment and rage. Every day, I make a conscious choice not to be like them.
Sometimes all I can do to follow through on that choice is to avoid taking out
my irritation on everyone around me. Other days, I can contribute some peace
and joy to the atmosphere around me.
This year, all of my three children are living in their
hometown with me for the first time in fifteen years. That’s a huge blessing. I
have well-received novels that are selling well. This is a dream come true. I am making a living (of
sorts) by making up stories and writing them down. That’s another great
blessing.  The year began with health
scares for me and included more for two of my children, all of which came to
nothing—another blessing of major magnitude. And the list goes on and on.
I believe that, if those cutting off people in traffic or
committing hostile or underhanded acts against others in the workplace or
attacking others viciously on the internet would take a moment to look at their
lives, they, too, would find reasons for gratitude. As my grandmother used to
say, “Any day I can suck in breath and stand up on my own feet gives me reason
right there to be thankful.” It’s when we live blind to the miracles of our daily
lives that we turn sour and mean.
So I’m beginning this new personal year with gratitude and
recognition of the blessings that surround me, and I hope to continue in that
vein for the entire year. One thing I truly appreciate is this blog—the
wonderful women who are part of it with me and the great people who visit it
and connect with us.
What about you? Have you noticed the rise in uncivil
behavior lately? How do you deal with it? What are the things you’re grateful
for? What are your blessings and little and big miracles?
NOTE: Something I’m not happy about is my inability to
comment on this blog or reply to others’ comments right now. I’m trying to get
answers to this problem from Blogger, but until then, please note that, if you
leave a comment, I will respond to it on The Stiletto Gang Facebook page, which
does recognize my existence—at least at this moment.

1 reply
  1. Marilyn Meredith a.k.a. F. M. Meredith
    Marilyn Meredith a.k.a. F. M. Meredith says:

    I'm hoping I'll be able to comment. Counting your blessing works far better than getting angry at those who do irritating things. They will always be with us, and getting worked up never changes anything.

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